Please take this with the best of intentions…

The parents and other leaders in the pack don't see why they should…

You are the CC, your mom is the Cubmaster and your hubby is the Webelos leader. The way that I see it, the other parents may feel that:

1. It's not their pack, it's the Noble's pack
2. Your family holds the highest positions in the pack
3. You don't have a vested interest in the pack, so why are you there? (you don't have any kids)

If your heart desires, stay with it, plan the year, and let the cards fall where they may. I, personally, would resign and let the rest of the pack deal with it. The parents don't seem to care. Walking away, quitting, taking your ball and going home…either phrase, it's a stark reality that the families of your pack don't have any interest in the planning of the year's events, and are more than happy for you, your husband and your mom to do it…and I would also guess that there are a lot of complaints about what you plan. We have run across it with our pack that the ones who complain the most, never show to planning meetings.

Thinking outloud, where is the secretary? Where is the treasurer? The advancement chair? Tiger leader? Are there assistant den leaders that could be there?

If you have a very small pack, then there shouldn't be a lot of leaders there. You have one person doing a dual job (Wolf/Bear leader). Not knowing the size of your pack would affect my answers, but not in as much as you would think.

The perception is there…our pack suffered from it. The CC and CM were husband & wife…low turnout to meetings, low attendance to outings and events, and no input into yearly planning.

Once that couple left, our leadership doubled, our pack flourished and we now have 2 leaders per den, and a full committee. I am not saying that you are bad people…on the contrary, you are good people, but the perception is there.

*side note, the couple that was in our pack was a cancer…they did it their way, and everything was their way or the highway…that was another reason for the low turnout.

In a nutshell, either plan it and deal with the fallout, or resign and let the pack deal with the fallout.

Nancy, I feel your pain.  To the nth degree.  Seriously.

One of the things that frustrates me is the attitude of, "Eh, do whatever you want, we'll just go along with it."  Especially since folks *DON'T* just go with it, they get angry and quietly mumble and grumble when things aren't going their way.  SPEAK UP, yo!

One of the things I found worked was to have a "parent meeting" – where *every parent* was told to come to the mandatory meeting.  We had a brief (oh… 15 minute or so?) overview of what's expected of parents in helping their Cub Scouts with the program and what's expected from the parents to run the pack.  Then we just dove right into the annual planning.  They were sorta blind sided and didn't realize until about 20 minutes in that they were part of a committee type meeting.  Honestly?  Some people left right about that point. Some people just truly don't care.  However, some people who previously hadn't been involved *got involved*.  It helped to have our Unit Commissioner there to sorta reign me in when I was taking too much charge, too, so that OTHER people would step in.

As Shawn said, if they don't feel they own the pack, they won't invest in it.  If they feel someone else is going to do for them, they won't bother to learn to do for themselves.  It's the same thing as tying your kiddo's shoes.  If they aren't forced to do it themselves, to struggle through successes and failures, they'll just keep letting you tie their shoes, yeah?